Your Life As Story:
Writing Narrative Nonfiction
Creating a Narrator Readers Love
( Part I of II, Continued in October.)

So, let's begin with some simple lists. I suggest you print these out and post them near your writing table. Make your own, too, adding to these suggestions from your experiences as a reader and writer:

What are qualities readers love in a narrator of memoir?

• spunkiness
• emotiotional honesty--clear-eyed vision of what happened, how it affected the narrator's emotional life, and the lives of others
• willingness to look behind events into meaning
• willingness to make meaning that is substantial and transformative
• willingness to accept personal responsibility in life events
• can-do spirit
• joyful attitude
• authenticity, or walking no one's talk--SHOWING a life lived that mirrors opinions, attitudes, and values expressed
• sense of humor
• vulnerability about still not understanding events
• fearlessness
• lust for life/adventure
• willingness to try against the odds
• silliness
• willingness to make mistakes es

What are qualities readers dislike in a narrator of memoir?

• victim mentality
• blame--pointing fingers at characters for things that have happened in the narrator's life
• refusal to accept responsibility
• woes-me attitude
• arrogance--untransformed holier-than-thou attitude
• narcissistic behavior--no consideration of other players in the story; they exist only to prop up the narrator's dissertation
• unwillingness to make meaning from events that teaches something bigger than small-spirited personal obsessions. (Readers don't come to literature to hear a reiteration of their own crap.)
• dishonesty about events critical to the heart of the story. If a writer is making a larger truth that resonates for the story as a whole, and he has changed details of the life experience, most readers will overlook this in the name of story/literature/art. But if you say you survived an airplane crash in the Andes, go on to write a story about the power of faith, and you've never even been out of Memphis, hmmm...readers aren't going to be too happy.
• long-winded, boring iteration of material only marginally pertinent to the story action--but then that's just bad writing....

How do you avoid one of these voices and beckon the other?

You get honest with yourself. You do the hard work of looking inside. You stand in the place of compassion. You get over having to be right.

This is work that has little to do with the craft of writing, but for the writer of personal stories, it must be done to find an authentic voice readers will return to again and again.

More next month on the personal work a memoir writer must do-- alongside the writing practice--in Creating a Narrator Readers Love #2.